Forgiving Jaskirat Sidhu

Who deserves absolution, and when, is one of humanity’s most vexing questions—one families devastated by the Humboldt Broncos tragedy can’t seem to avoid
Jaskirat Singh Sidhu,
Jaskirat Singh Sidhu, the driver of the truck that collided with the bus carrying the Humboldt Broncos hockey team leaves after the second day of sentencing hearings Tuesday, January 29, 2019 in Melfort, Saskatchewan. (Ryan Remiorz/CP)

Scott Thomas reached for his necklace. It felt like it was choking him as he struggled to fall asleep. With his fingers, he traced the contours of the pendant with the number 17 engraved on one side and the Humboldt Broncos insignia on the other. The markings represented the number his son Evan wore in hockey, and the last team for which the 18-year-old had laced up skates.

This would be Scott’s last restless night’s sleep before he and his wife, Laurie, drove to a courtroom in Melfort, Sask., and came face to face for the first time with Jaskirat Singh Sidhu, the truck driver who had cruised through a stop sign in rural Saskatchewan and crashed into the Broncos’ bus while it was en route to a junior hockey playoff game. Sixteen people, including Evan, died in that crash on April 6, 2018. Thirteen were seriously injured.

Scott took off the necklace.

“I always think about what Evan might be thinking,” he says. “I worry that I don’t talk to him enough. I worry that I don’t think about him enough. I worry that I’m not representing him well. I worry that I’m not standing up enough for him. There are times when I wonder if I should hate Sidhu. There is no blueprint for this.”

The Thomases had their victim impact statement ready for the court proceedings, written in the form of a letter to Evan from his mother and father. It was an open-hearted accounting of all the ways and places and times that they miss him—an expression of love for their only son.

The wreckage from the April 6, 2018, collision of the truck driven by Sidhu and the Broncos bus (Jonathan Hayward/CP)
The wreckage from the April 6, 2018, collision of the truck driven by Sidhu and the Broncos bus (Jonathan Hayward/CP)

But on the morning of day three for the sentencing hearing, the day after the Thomases read that letter aloud before the court, the couple couldn’t shake a haunting thought: their 18-year-old son would forgive the truck driver. They were certain of it.

So in their hotel room, they sat down with pen and paper and wrote another letter, this time to Sidhu, saying as much. Then, as a gesture of forgiveness, they placed the pendant in the envelope with the letter and gave the package to a lawyer on the defence team. Later that day, one of Sidhu’s relatives approached the couple, proposing that they meet in private with the man responsible for Evan’s death.

Scott and Laurie acknowledge feeling some residual hostility at the time toward Sidhu, even as they felt the capacity to forgive. But mostly, they felt grief. So Scott walked into the police-protected room reserved for the defence and his family. Sidhu was down on one knee, tears dropping onto the floor. Scott held both his hands, pulled him up to his feet and hugged him close, as if he were comforting a weeping child. Both men wept.

“What happened?” Scott asked.

“I don’t know. I don’t know,” Sidhu replied. “I’m so sorry.”

“You must have got the letter,” Scott said.

They talked about what the Thomases had written, about Evan, about faith. Scott didn’t doubt Sidhu’s sincerity, and gave voice to the message in the letter: that he forgives him. Sidhu took a step back, reached under his shirt and pulled out the No. 17 Broncos pendant. “I’ll wear this for the rest of my life,” he told Scott.

The back of the Thomas-Sidhu Pendant (Photograph by Leah Hennel)

Front of the Thomas-Sidhu Pendant (Photograph by Leah Hennel)

Today, Sidhu looks back on these fleeting moments in the anteroom of a Prairie courthouse as a minor miracle—as pivotal in setting the course of his life as the sentencing itself. The arc of pain and outrage set off by the Humboldt tragedy seemed at the time as though it would never bend back. The scale of loss was too great, the anger too raw for a single one of the victims’ families to extend a hand of forgiveness.

“When I close my eyes, I can see myself standing in that room with Mr. Thomas and it gives me the energy to move forward,” Sidhu told Maclean’s in his first interview since the crash, speaking from Bowden Institution, a medium-security prison near Red Deer, Alta. “The pendant reminds me of my mistakes—and it reminds me of the power of forgiveness.”

Many of the loved ones of other Broncos killed in the collision may never reach the place the Thomases have, and some speak of feeling an unwelcome pressure to forgive. Yet none who agreed to be interviewed for this story slammed the door on the possibility, and their reasons for withholding it are every bit as considered and heartfelt as the Thomas family’s reasons for extending it.

The result, only three years on from heart-rending trauma, is a surprisingly open conversation about the limits of grief, and the usefulness of a deceptively simple-sounding word. What is forgiveness? Who does it serve? What purpose does it serve?

“From where I’m standing,” Sidhu says, “forgiveness means everything.”

Thomas, whose son Evan was killed in the crash, gave a pendant bearing his son’s hockey number to Sidhu in an act of forgiveness (Liam Richards/CP)


Generosity granted to the wrongdoer is an idea that has resonated through the centuries in religion, ethics, politics and modern psychology. In Canada, few cases have thrust it to the fore as surely as the disaster in Saskatchewan. As Sidhu’s case passed through the justice system—as he pled guilty to 29 counts of dangerous driving; as he was sentenced to eight years in prison; as he awaited a Canada Border Services officer’s report recommending whether he, a permanent resident of Canada but not a citizen, should be deported to India upon his release—the survivors and families of the dead were asked the question again and again. Do they forgive? Will they? Ever?

Some of this interest arises from Sidhu’s inadequacy as a villain. He never sought to minimize his personal responsibility, nor did he intend to kill or injure. (Indeed, he came within a fraction of a second of losing his own life.) He has expressed remorse for his actions, repeatedly. With less than one month on the job at the time of the crash, he is now viewed by many as a trucking novice who was unready to be sent out solo behind the wheel of a B-train tractor-trailer unit pulling 22 tonnes of peat moss.

But the interest on the part of the media and public in the families’ answers also speaks to our collective stake in the conditions under which forgiveness is granted, because Sidhu’s case highlights the real-world consequences of offering or withholding it. For the offender, gaining forgiveness can affect the length of their sentence and the availability of parole. It can have a profound impact on their mental health.

For those harmed, offering it can be no less life-altering. “When you hold onto a grudge, [the perpetrators] are the ones responsible for your suffering,” says Fred Luskin, director of the Stanford University Forgiveness Projects, a research initiative on interpersonal forgiving. “When you give up the grudge, you are now again responsible to give yourself a good life. And that’s really hard.”

The concept of forgiveness dominant in modern Western cultures is strongly influenced by religion, especially Christianity. Common expressions for the idea, like “wiping the slate clean,” are found in the Old Testament. Jesus is quoted as saying: “If you do not forgive others their sins, your Father will not forgive your sins.”

A more modern understanding would emerge, though, shaped by social scientists and secular thinkers studying its impact on victims, offenders and society as a whole. They tend to frame forgiveness not as a matter of faith but as a factor in the psychological recovery of the individuals involved. Or, on a societal level, as a way of relieving social and political tension. (Sometimes, the old and new lines of thinking converge in a symbolic way, as when the Black Anglican cleric Archbishop Desmond Tutu chaired South Africa’s Truth and Reconciliation Commission.)

Scientific study of forgiveness, meanwhile, only began in the last few decades. In a groundbreaking 2009 study, researchers screened patients at a Wisconsin veteran’s hospital, identifying those who’d suffered deep and unresolved psychological injuries. One group went through interpersonal forgiveness therapy sessions; a control group did not. Four months later, when the subjects were asked to recall the person who hurt them, the people who had completed the program showed markedly greater blood-flow improvement than those who had not.

“It was the only study that showed a cause and effect of learning how to forgive, reasonably, and there being improvement in a major artery of the body,” says Robert Enright, a co-author of the study and a professor at the University of Wisconsin-Madison, who is considered a pioneer of forgiveness science. “Forgiveness therapy is for the client, to get better [after] being pulled down psychologically by the injustices against them.”

On a population-wide level, forgiveness is seen as essential to a functioning society. How many more divorce cases would clog our courts without it? How would we move beyond wars and historic injustices?

Yet there are persuasive examples of withholding forgiveness yielding social good. Unforgiving victims can ensure a domestic assailant faces stronger consequences. They can prevent groups of people from being further victimized in a cycle of abuse. They can spur much-needed changes in the law.

“If Rosa Parks forgave and moved to the back of the bus, a lot of things wouldn’t have changed,” says Kim Pittaway, a journalist from Halifax and author of her forthcoming memoir Grudge: My 10-Year Fight With Forgiveness. “Forgiveness is a kind of social lubrication. If there was no forgiveness, the gears would grind to a halt. But if it is dispensed too easily, no one is ever held responsible for the terrible things they do to others.”

Pittaway struggled to forgive her father, who she describes as a narcissist, a bully and someone who would say awful things to people. His children were not exempt from his behaviour. Pittaway coped with that by moving 1,500 km from Moncton to Toronto.

“We are immersed in a culture that sees forgiveness as a kind of saintly state—that a good person forgives, a bad person doesn’t forgive,” says Pittaway. “I’m a fan of grudges. Grudges protect people. There’s a difference between being consumed with hatred and holding a sensible grudge against someone.”

She maintained minimal contact with her father for decades, because he was still married to her mother. But when her mom turned 75, she left Kim’s father. Pittaway, who had moved back to the East Coast, agreed to help him with the occasional banking or apartment crisis. Otherwise, she would go long stretches without talking to him. He wasn’t going to change his behaviour, and he wasn’t going to apologize. She never forgave him.

“People who refuse to forgive, who just continue to bear witness to horror and tragedy and a wrong that was done, play an important role in reminding us that these things should never happen,” says Alice MacLachlan, a York University philosophy professor whose research includes the nature and limits of forgiveness. “One way to say ‘never again’ is to keep insisting that we sit with the discomfort of horrible things.”

All of which suggests the circumstances under which forgiveness is offered, or denied, says much about a society—even in instances as wrenching and traumatic as the Humboldt bus crash.

When Jaskirat Sidhu’s sentence is over and the question of his deportation is settled, it seems possible the outcome will serve as a mirror to Canadians, reflecting some part of our character back at us. Something in our values, perhaps, or our collective nature.

Will we like what we see?

Christina Haugan’s children were 9 and 12 when their father, Darcy, died in the crash (Photograph by Leah Hennel)


Evan Thomas was six when he made a local competitive hockey team in Saskatoon. One of his friends didn’t, however, and in his anger stole Evan’s track suit. It turned up later in the garbage. Evan was upset, but Laurie and Scott offered some context. This boy’s parents were going through a divorce, they told him, and it’s hard to imagine how tough that could be. Evan went back and told his buddy that he forgave him. They grew up to become best friends.

It’s a memory Scott and Laurie Thomas look back upon fondly. Sometimes those principles last well into adulthood, as was the case with Darcy Haugan, Evan’s coach with the Humboldt Broncos, who was also killed in the crash. Partway through that fateful season, someone slipped a letter under Haugan’s office door. It said Haugan should quit as coach—that he should not be here, so just pack up and leave—only in less kind words. Why the writer felt that way was unclear; the Broncos were having a pretty good season. It was left unsigned.

Christina Haugan read the note later that day, and was dismayed by the vitriol on her husband’s behalf. But when she asked Darcy how he felt, she recalls him saying: “You know what? Someone obviously needed to get that off their chest. I can’t take that personally.” Says Christina: “Instead of being angry, he had that instant, forgiving mindset.”

It was a mentality partly rooted in Christian faith, which they shared. But when Darcy died, forgiveness was far from instant for Christina. She was angry and hurt, and no long-remembered Sunday school precept could change that on its own. “I’ve been taught my whole life that you should forgive other people,” she says. “It’s a little different when you’re faced with having to do it.”

Haugan’s children were nine and 12 years old when their father died in the crash. She knew they’d be influenced by what they heard, and she didn’t want them to witness anger that wouldn’t subside.

After Sidhu’s conviction, the court invited the survivors and the families of the dead to submit victim impact statements for sentencing. Christina’s first draft came out mostly as a rant, she says, until it struck her that it was not her place to appraise someone’s errors or sins. The consequences of human wrongdoing vary widely, from trifling to tragic, but she looked back at the times she’d been forgiven for her mistakes. How could she not do the same? And like the Thomases, she thought of how the person she’d lost would react. Darcy Haugan would want her to forgive, she decided.

So she did. “I don’t think we would be doing Darcy justice if we weren’t modelling things that were important to him,” she says.

Raelene and Russell Herold go through their son Adam’s things at the farm (Photograph by Mark Taylor)


Raelene and Russell Herold had yet to bury the ashes of their son Adam, a 16-year-old playoff call-up for the Broncos, when a reporter outside the courtroom at Sidhu’s sentencing hearing asked them about forgiveness. Raelene looked at Russell, who looked back at her. “Put yourself in my shoes,” she replied to the reporter through tears. “Tell me what you would do.” She doesn’t remember any questions after that.

The Herolds didn’t fault other Broncos family members who had chosen to forgive; those gestures didn’t make their pain any worse. But Sidhu’s sentencing was the first time they’d even heard anyone raise the issue. Now they wished each person’s decision on the matter wouldn’t be treated as a public event.

The effect of such moments, say the Herolds and others who have experienced it, is an unspoken yet discernible pressure—and a fear of appearing ungenerous, even self-involved, if they can’t forgive, as if they’re letting down society by failing to let go of their anger.

Experts say that’s because forgiveness has become part of a script for public tragedies. “Chances are you’ll be asked by someone, like the media, ‘Do you forgive this person?’ ” says Myisha Cherry, a philosophy professor at the University of California, Riverside and author of the forthcoming book The Failures of Forgiveness. “So they’re immediately presented with this question: are you going to be a forgiving victim or an unforgiving one?”

That confluence of private decision-making and public interest exposes another problem. We have no common understanding of what forgiveness means. Is it letting go of anger? Is it absolving the wrongdoer? Is it extending grace, in the Biblical sense? Is it setting terms for how severely an offender should be punished?

“Forgiveness is not excusing. It’s not forgetting. It’s not abandoning justice. It’s not letting them out of jail,” says Enright. “They can stay in jail and you can still forgive them by seeing them in their full humanity, beyond just those behaviours.”

To Luskin, the Stanford psychologist, it means relinquishing the idea that the past could or should be different. “Forgiveness is making peace with the word ‘no,’ ” he says. “What you’re doing is accepting the totality of one’s life experience, both the blessings and the suffering.” That does not, he adds, necessitate reconciling or giving someone who harms you a hug: “Forgive your ex, but still go to court and get child support.”

Other scholars hesitate to define forgiveness, noting that those thinking about it most are often doing so in the wake of extraordinarily painful experiences and have differing understandings of what the word means. York’s MacLachlan, for one, cautions against getting caught up in its perceived societal benefits. “I don’t think forgiveness is always required, an obligation or even a good idea,” she says. “Victims have a lot of autonomy in deciding whether or not they get to forgive. As a society, we sometimes pressure victims to forgive too much, too fast. And this can be really dangerous.”

Cherry calls it the “hurry and bury” ritual: the public expects a Hollywood-style plot line, where they feel uncomfortable for a certain period before things get settled. It could be part of a narrative about reconciliation, Cherry says, “but we also want to know that it’s been resolved so we can go about our lives. We quickly ask and expect for them to forgive. And these individuals are usually gender minorities and racial minorities.”

She points to some of the best known “moral exemplars” who suffered greatly and forgave—individuals who minorities are asked, implicitly or explicitly, to emulate amid injustice: Gandhi, Nelson Mandela and Martin Luther King Jr. “What do all these people have in common? They are Black or brown folk who have suffered under racial colonial oppression.”

In such cases—even the ones with storybook endings—the public can be left wondering whose interests forgiveness has served. There’s a 2016 segment from 60 Minutes, the American current affairs show, about a crooked white police officer who falsified a report in a drug-dealing case to send an innocent Black man to jail. Years later, it was revealed the officer had falsified many reports, and he was sent to jail for a year and a half, while the Black man was exonerated and released after four years behind bars.

Coincidentally, the duo later found work at the same small-town café. The ex-officer apologized, the one who lost four years of his life behind bars forgave, and they became friends. The segment ends with the narrator—blithely, as if there were some equivalency between the men’s experiences—asking the viewer: “If these two guys from the coffee shop can set aside their bitter grounds, what’s our excuse?”

Myisha Cherry Assistant Professor of Philosophy at UC Riverside. (Photograph by Nikk Rich)
Cherry, a philosophy professor, says forgiveness has become part of the script for public tragedies (Photograph by Nikk Rich)


When some families started to offer their forgiveness at the sentencing hearing for Sidhu, it was Chris Joseph’s first inkling that the 29 Broncos families didn’t all align on the matter. It was less than a year after the tragedy, and Joseph hadn’t had time to process his thoughts about Sidhu. He and his wife, Andrea, were angry, he says, and that’s how they appeared in the media. A number of news outlets made headlines out of a quote from Andrea’s victim impact statement: “You don’t deserve my forgiveness.”

Chris Joseph believes there is now more logic to their position. While Sidhu apologized, they feel he took a chance at that intersection by running the stop sign. That gamble, they say, cost the Josephs their son Jaxon, a 20-year-old centre on the Broncos. Chris notes that Sidhu submitted the paperwork to stay in Canada after his sentence is served, instead of accepting deportation. To Joseph, that in itself suggests a lack of remorse, a denial of rightful consequence.

Joseph thinks about Sidhu someday getting back behind the wheel of a vehicle in Canada. (Sidhu is under a court order that prevents him from driving on any public road, street or highway in Canada for 10 years from the end of his imprisonment sentence.) He thinks of Sidhu raising a family in Canada after devastating Joseph’s. He thinks of Sidhu’s name popping up in the news—whether he moves to Nova Scotia or the Yukon. He thinks about Sidhu living in a nearby community in Alberta.

Chris Joseph says he thinks about Sidhu raising a family in Canada after destroying his (Jason Franson/CP)

If he returns to India, says Joseph, and the couple never hear his name again, that’s one less trauma for them to endure: “Why does he have to stay? You can still forgive, no matter where he is.”

Joseph says he doesn’t feel burdened by his anger, and he doesn’t feel a need to “release” it. “I’m comfortable in my lack of forgiveness right now,” he says. More concerning to him and other Broncos families who spoke to Maclean’s is how the public might judge them for holding to their view three years after the crash. They don’t want to come across as the bad guys. They’re simply still grieving.

Russell Herold, for one, acknowledges that Sidhu didn’t intend to hurt anyone. But he believes the driver’s actions were reckless. “It wasn’t an icy road. It wasn’t a brake failure. This was in broad daylight and he never touched his brakes,” he says. “That’s why I struggle to forgive.”

Adam, their only son, has since been buried on their farmland in Montmartre, Sask., but vestiges of his life are everywhere: a machine he’d operate, something he’d built, a regular chore he would do. “It’s a daily reminder,” Russell says, “and I can’t get it out of my mind.”

The Herolds occasionally read articles about the aftermath of the tragedy that raise the question of forgiveness, and they can see that victims who do forgive are held in high regard. “What does that reinforce to people who are not thinking that same thing?” he says. “That you mustn’t be that good of a person.”

“We’ll never say that we’re never going to forgive,” Raelene adds. “It’s not that we’re not trying, or not thinking about it. It’s just hard.”

Russell Herold goes through family photos (Photograph by Mark Taylor)


Jaskirat Sidhu remembers the first time someone forgave him for causing the deaths of 16 people and altering the lives of countless more. It was day one of his sentencing hearing in March 2019, the first time he’d come face to face with the families of the Humboldt Broncos.

Sidhu was overcome with emotion as he entered the makeshift courthouse located inside a community-centre gymnasium in Melfort. There was fear. There was sadness. “I was broken,” he says. “I’m an emotional guy who never wanted to hurt anybody, who never wanted to take the most valuable things in their life from them.”

He was trembling in his chair at one point when a Broncos family member approached and sat down next to him. He can’t remember who. She told Sidhu that she forgave him. His body froze.

“My mind went blank—it didn’t respond,” he says. “You keep asking yourself: ‘How do they have the power and energy to forgive me? How can they do this? You haven’t done anything good to them.’ ”

His thoughts often race back to the day of the crash. He thinks about the Broncos families. He struggles psychologically over the pain he’s caused them. (On the advice of lawyers, Sidhu did not discuss details of the crash, due to ongoing civil actions against him, the trucking company and other parties.)

He also contemplates what the future holds for his family. He wonders who he will be once he gets out of prison. He wonders how he can make life better for himself and others. “I’m struggling every day to think positively about myself,” Sidhu says. “And it’s really hard to clear up my mind and start moving forward.” There are endless questions, he adds, “and I don’t have the answers.”

Sidhu tries to keep busy in Bowden Institution, if for no other reason than to occupy his mind—however briefly. He works at the prison’s tailor shop, where he mends fellow inmates’ torn jackets or pants. It involves a certain level of trust from the prison administration, as he gets to use sharp tools like scissors. He also recently finished a vocational course in warehouse work.

But such opportunities slowed during the pandemic, not least due to occasional COVID-19 outbreaks in the prison. “These days, we get 4½ hours [a day] out of our room,” he says. “Things are hard because there’s no routine.”

So he passes time reading books, among them The Art of Happiness by the Dalai Lama; No Surrender: My Thirty-Year War, the autobiography of a Japanese soldier who held his post in the jungle of the Philippines until 1974, convinced the Second World War had not yet ended; and, most recently, a book about how habits shape us.

One habit he’s struggled with since the crash is getting a good night’s sleep. Until recently, he had a cell to himself. When alone, he’ll sit on a small mat and meditate—something he rarely practised prior to prison, but is now integral to helping calm his brain from the anxiety and post-traumatic stress.

He encouraged his wife, Tanvir, to take up meditation, too. They were married in February 2018, planning for a future in Canada, which they’ve called home since 2013. Sidhu took the truck-driving gig a month after their wedding to help fund Tanvir’s education to become a dental hygienist. A few weeks after that, the crash happened.

Sidhu says he’s not the type of person to run from responsibility. He pleaded guilty to all 29 charges against him, without asking for a plea bargain; he didn’t want to make things worse for the Broncos families by putting them through a trial. “My mom and my dad always taught me if you have done something wrong, go accept it. If you have not done something wrong, stand up for yourself,” Sidhu says. “Those are my values, and that’s what I was doing.”

He is eligible to apply for full parole in October, after serving one-third of his eight-year sentence. But where he and Tanvir will live after he is released is yet to be determined. Under federal law, offenders who are not Canadian citizens and whose jail sentences are longer than six months can be deported. Sidhu’s only avenue to remain here is through submissions to the Canadian Border Services Agency (CBSA), where an officer will recommend whether he should be allowed to stay or if his case should go to a hearing before the Immigration and Refugee Board. “If they send him to a hearing, the deportation order is automatic,” says Sidhu’s deportation lawyer, Michael Greene. “They just have to prove he was convicted of a serious offence. There’s no doubt that this is.” Sidhu cannot appeal the order, but he could challenge the CBSA’s decision in Federal Court; if successful, his case would be sent back to another officer.

All of which makes Sidhu’s current submissions to the CBSA vital to his hope of remaining in Canada. Included in them are letters from Scott and Laurie Thomas, as well as Christina Haugan. “I believe in forgiveness and I believe in second chances,” Haugan writes. “A man who took the harshest sentence for a crime of this nature without appealing or defending himself in an attempt to ease even a small amount of pain for those he hurt is someone I believe deserves a second chance.”

Expressions of forgiveness help his chance of staying, says Greene. “In a case like this, where you have all kinds of different families affected by it, you’re going to have a spectrum of reaction, from total forgiveness to absolute anger,” he says. “It’s very courageous of these people to take that stand.”

But Sidhu is at pains to say he isn’t seeking forgiveness. He respects the decisions of Broncos families who don’t forgive him, he says, whether they say they need more time, or that they never will. “I cannot calculate the anger they have inside them. I can’t judge it. They have every reason to not forgive me.” He’s open to speaking in person with any of them should they wish to, he adds, if it might do anything to ease their pain.

Under the circumstances, trying to stay in Canada seems the tougher path—more difficult, conceivably, than returning to India and leaving the entire tragedy behind. But after all Tanvir has been through since the crash, Sidhu says he feels obliged to at least try to build their life in Canada, where they dreamed of settling down. Sidhu speaks of strangers from across the country who’ve written him letters in prison to say they are thinking about him, or praying for him, or lighting a candle for him. He reads those letters in his cell, again and again, and cries.

“Who doesn’t want to be a part of this community?” he asks. “And if I do get deported, my wife would come with me—and I’ve already caused her so much pain, so she’d have to go through more.”

They haven’t seen each other since the start of the pandemic. Weeks have passed between their calls due to COVID-19 outbreaks in the prison, when inmates were not always able to use the phones. When he does reach Tanvir, Sidhu calls their conversations his “medicine.”

They don’t talk about the crash because those memories are haunting enough. Instead, they try to focus on the future, wherever it may take them, and how they might make a positive impact on the lives of others. Tanvir has placed the Humboldt Broncos pendant—that simple token that a grieving Saskatchewan father once wore close to his heart—in a special box for safekeeping, waiting for the day Sidhu comes home. It is their lasting symbol of the forgiving spirit of others, and one small comfort to a man who does not know whether he’ll ever forgive himself.

This article appears in print in the August 2021 issue of Maclean’s magazine with the headline, “Forgiving Jaskirat Sidhu.” Subscribe to the monthly print magazine here.